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Help isn’t a four letter word

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Help isn’t a four letter word…

Well it is of course, but you get my drift.

The other day I had a conversation with a mate about marriage counselling. They felt it was something you only did when things got ‘really bad’… And you didn’t talk about it. To anyone. That really disappointed me – why are we so reluctant to get regular emotional and mental help?

We happily see the doctor, fuss about Fitbits, cycle nowhere in a gym for hours, eat organic kale and do all sorts of regular maintenance in the hopes of never letting our bodies get ‘really bad’ – why will we let our mental state go until its almost too late? Why do we let our relationships suffer, our friendships go yuck and our ambitions deteriorate by not taking our emotional wellbeing seriously?

Apparently, it’s the stigma.

A great *HuffPost article outlines 14 common misconceptions about people who go to therapy which supports this like; ‘we’re weak’, ‘we’re crazy’ ‘we’re on medication’ and ’we’re in a ‘bad place’’. You’d have to be pretty resilient to push through those judgements – no wonder people wait till the cliff edge!

But what if this changed?

What if counselling and help was like prevention, mental maintenance, going for a brain run? What if people did it regularly. If it was celebrated as a sign of mutual respect and love in a relationship. A sign of well person with a healthy self esteem looking after themselves.

In the case of marriage counselling would this prevent things getting ‘really bad’…? And now what if we applied this to career health?

How many times have you felt lost at work, totally uninspired, so much meh you’re
drowning in it?

How many times have you looked painfully at your reflection and mumbled “What am I doing with my life???”?

Maybe a regular visit to a life coach, to a career counsellor or a mentor might help keep
everything in check – keep pointing you straight in a sort-of line, so that you can see where you’re going and appreciate where you’ve been.

Simple questions like “Am I where i want to be? What/who is getting in my way? How/when can I tackle this? And the big bonza – Why am I doing what I’m doing?” Tackled together with an objective professional, regularly, it could be really powerful. It might prevent that fisticuffs with the boss that literally got you fired, or that meltdown that had you curled up mumbling in a corner when you realised everything you’d done for the last 14 years was a waste of time!

Maybe we should all try it!

We’re pretty big about it here at MT HQ – mentoring and confidante services are in our product mix and our corporate mantra is ‘We point people in the right direction’. In fact, for a limited time, we’re putting our money where our mouth is – we’re offering half price mentor sessions!

So why not start the new year really caring for yourself – or give the ultimate Christmas gift to a friend who could really do with some direction. Hit us up on: help@mamatray.com

It’ll work wonders!

*https://www.huffingtonpost.com/sahaj-kohli/misconceptions-about-therapy_b_7286204.html


These wise words come from the brain of Mandy Lawle
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The Importance of Being Earnest

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Let’s do a little exercise…

Swap your LinkedIn profile pic for your Facebook profile pic for a day – or maybe even a week – and see what happens. My bet is you’ll get question-marks, a lotta likes, heaps of giggle emojis and a few job offers from places you didn’t think existed! If you’re anything like me, the two are pretty different.

That’s the backside of my first born when he was 8 months (he’s 6 now but not much has changed!) on my Facebook profile pic (I’ve two more little bottoms to add to that now!) – can’t see that bringing in too many job offers on LI!

The thing is though, it says more about me than my actual LinkedIn pic. Only a touch more mind you, because my LinkedIn profile pic is a bit of a giggle too – two haircuts for the price of one! Anyway… Try this experiment with all your mates!

Have a look at their LinkedIn profile pics and then their Facebook ones. Which is closer to
the person you know and love? I’m guessing the Facebook one. So why do we put on our
Sunday best Maclean smiles and good angles for LinkedIn and save the bedheads and craycray’s for Facey?

What version of ourselves are we presenting to future employers? The version we have
the energy to maintain around the office 1, 3 or 5 years into the future? That’s a lot of
whitening toothpaste!!

Instead, why not find a happy medium? Ask yourself – does the person in that pic look like it could be me from 5 – 9, not just ‘9 to 5’? If yes, upload! Now, I don’t mean legs over head,
Bacardi Breezer all over dress, blowing a vuvuzela at a hen’s do, but someone you can deliver easily, comfortably and honestly everyday – that doesn’t require you to have ‘work clothes’ and ‘rest-of-life clothes’!

If you’re having trouble deciding on the perfect shot, you’ve got a ready made panel of judges in your mates!

These wise words come from the brain of Mandy Lawler.